Erika & Jordan
Their Story: This is Erika & Jordan and they have been dating for 4 years, and going steady! This couple have become so close that they are now happily living together. These two are also each others best friends and do almost everything together. As their relationship has continually grown they have become almost one. The two of them have a happy and supportive relationship that is healthy for the both of them. We interviewed the two of them together to see how they communicate and if they would like to improve upon their communication styles.
We asked this couple some questions about their relationship to give us a little more insight to how they have over come their communication problems in their romantic relationship. Here is what they had to say:
Q: How often do the two of you communicate?
A: (E) We are currently living together so we see each other everyday and obviously talk everyday. We are both very busy, so we are always coming and going from class and work. We are pretty much texting throughout the day about what we are going to do for dinner and if we have stuff to do later. So I would say it is likely that we are communicating for most of the day.
(J) Yeah, I would agree with Erika. We actually do not get to see each other a whole lot because of our schedules besides at night. At night we're usually both tired or doing homework so we're not having super in depth conversations. But if I'm at a friends or doing something we're probably texting. We like to know what the other is doing so that's why we text most of the time.
Q: What problems in communication do you see that occur in your relationship?
A: (E) I think that we communicate well. I have a hard time getting Jordan to talk about us a lot he usually just puts it off or says that we are doing great. Other then that we usually know what the other is doing or we're with each other so I do not see any huge problems.
(J) We never really have any problems communicating. At times she says she wishes I'd be more talkative or let her know what is going on in my life. But other then that I would say we share with each other pretty much everything.
Q:Do the two of you sit down on a regular basis and discuss your relationship in depth?
A: (E) To be honest we never plan a sit down to discuss our relationship. I wish we would do it every once in awhile but I know not to ask because Jordan wouldn't want to. The only time we really talk about us is after we have had a little argument or something. Going forward I think that it would help us to set up times where we focus on ourselves and how to better our relationship.
(J) We have had talks in the past where we discuss our relationship. As of late, we haven't really but I also think that our relationship is great so I don't see the point. I would be willing to start having these talks more if Erika wants to because they would benefit us.
Q: How often do the two of you communicate?
A: (E) We are currently living together so we see each other everyday and obviously talk everyday. We are both very busy, so we are always coming and going from class and work. We are pretty much texting throughout the day about what we are going to do for dinner and if we have stuff to do later. So I would say it is likely that we are communicating for most of the day.
(J) Yeah, I would agree with Erika. We actually do not get to see each other a whole lot because of our schedules besides at night. At night we're usually both tired or doing homework so we're not having super in depth conversations. But if I'm at a friends or doing something we're probably texting. We like to know what the other is doing so that's why we text most of the time.
Q: What problems in communication do you see that occur in your relationship?
A: (E) I think that we communicate well. I have a hard time getting Jordan to talk about us a lot he usually just puts it off or says that we are doing great. Other then that we usually know what the other is doing or we're with each other so I do not see any huge problems.
(J) We never really have any problems communicating. At times she says she wishes I'd be more talkative or let her know what is going on in my life. But other then that I would say we share with each other pretty much everything.
Q:Do the two of you sit down on a regular basis and discuss your relationship in depth?
A: (E) To be honest we never plan a sit down to discuss our relationship. I wish we would do it every once in awhile but I know not to ask because Jordan wouldn't want to. The only time we really talk about us is after we have had a little argument or something. Going forward I think that it would help us to set up times where we focus on ourselves and how to better our relationship.
(J) We have had talks in the past where we discuss our relationship. As of late, we haven't really but I also think that our relationship is great so I don't see the point. I would be willing to start having these talks more if Erika wants to because they would benefit us.