4 Easy Steps On How To Communicate In Relationships:
Step 1: Approaching a conversation with your partner
- Give up the need to be right, a relationship is not a battleground. Just consider that your partner may have something to say that is worth listening to. Be open!
Step 2: Talking to your partner
- Going into a conversation, there is only one reality that a person can be sure of and that is you know what your own
thoughts, feelings and perceptions are.
- Focus on yourself: It is an unfortunate reality that, within almost all couples, one person is victimized by the other. As a result, the focus of many of their discussions is on blaming each other. In your effort to talk about yourself, avoid the temptation to lapse into attacking, accusing, criticizing or blaming your partner.
-Reveal your personal wants: Share your personal wants that come from deep down in you where you feel the most vulnerable. I want you to complement me, I want to be affectionate with you, I want to have a baby with you.
Step 3: Listening to your partner
- Listening is a skill that needs to be learned and developed. Just because we hear does not mean that we are listening. Only when we listen with an unconditional interest in understanding the person who is talking to us, can we truly get to know that person.
- Hear your partner out: When you put yourself aside, that is when you focus on what your partner is saying rather than on how you are reacting, you are making yourself available to listen to your partner. As your partner talks, try to sense what it feels like to be him-her.
- Indicate that you are hearing your partner: It is not enough to listen silently. It is helpful to indicate to your partner that you are hearing him-her. During your conversation, reflect what your partner is saying and feeling. Repeat to him-her what you hear him-her saying and what you feel him-her feeling.
Step 4: Determining reality with your partner
-This level of insight and understanding along with the feelings of empathy and compassion that accompany it, help clarify much of the confusion that exists within the couple. The deeper awareness of each other eliminates many of the misconceptions, misinterpretations and miscommunications that go into creating this confusion. What remains is a clearer picture of yourselves and of the reality of your relationship.
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- Give up the need to be right, a relationship is not a battleground. Just consider that your partner may have something to say that is worth listening to. Be open!
Step 2: Talking to your partner
- Going into a conversation, there is only one reality that a person can be sure of and that is you know what your own
thoughts, feelings and perceptions are.
- Focus on yourself: It is an unfortunate reality that, within almost all couples, one person is victimized by the other. As a result, the focus of many of their discussions is on blaming each other. In your effort to talk about yourself, avoid the temptation to lapse into attacking, accusing, criticizing or blaming your partner.
-Reveal your personal wants: Share your personal wants that come from deep down in you where you feel the most vulnerable. I want you to complement me, I want to be affectionate with you, I want to have a baby with you.
Step 3: Listening to your partner
- Listening is a skill that needs to be learned and developed. Just because we hear does not mean that we are listening. Only when we listen with an unconditional interest in understanding the person who is talking to us, can we truly get to know that person.
- Hear your partner out: When you put yourself aside, that is when you focus on what your partner is saying rather than on how you are reacting, you are making yourself available to listen to your partner. As your partner talks, try to sense what it feels like to be him-her.
- Indicate that you are hearing your partner: It is not enough to listen silently. It is helpful to indicate to your partner that you are hearing him-her. During your conversation, reflect what your partner is saying and feeling. Repeat to him-her what you hear him-her saying and what you feel him-her feeling.
Step 4: Determining reality with your partner
-This level of insight and understanding along with the feelings of empathy and compassion that accompany it, help clarify much of the confusion that exists within the couple. The deeper awareness of each other eliminates many of the misconceptions, misinterpretations and miscommunications that go into creating this confusion. What remains is a clearer picture of yourselves and of the reality of your relationship.
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