Relationship History
It is true that everyone has a past, some of it is great and some you may wish to forget. This is the same in a interpersonal romantic relationship. Your partner may have had great experiences with previous lovers, or they may have had a terrible experience; or possibly some of both. Past experiences shape individuals into the people that they are today, this is the same for relationships. Relationship history is the past events and experiences that individuals have gone through in their previous relationships. It is important for partners in a relationship to know about the others past so they are able to help them cope and provide support for them. In communicating about relationship history it is important to disclose the proper amount of information. It is key not to share too much information as the information being shared could harm the current relationship. Knowing how in depth to go is the biggest challenge that partners struggle with in communicating about relationship history. A key to sharing the proper amount of information with each other is to share feelings on the same subjects, take turns being open. If partners are not willing to disclose some information about their previous relationship it could possibly cause insecurities in their current relationship.
Past Relationships
In the early stages of a relationship, talking about an ex might cause your partner to be insecure. They just are not relevant to the new relationship you are working on forming. Later, as you start to find out more about each other, references to past lovers should be limited, ideally to just a name, a time and a vague description of why it ended. It is important to communicate that you are not still emotionally involved with a relationship in the past.
Past Relationships
In the early stages of a relationship, talking about an ex might cause your partner to be insecure. They just are not relevant to the new relationship you are working on forming. Later, as you start to find out more about each other, references to past lovers should be limited, ideally to just a name, a time and a vague description of why it ended. It is important to communicate that you are not still emotionally involved with a relationship in the past.